Friends old and new

So Montréal

No interstate highways from northwestern Connecticut to the heart of Berkshire County in western Massachusetts. Beautiful drive. One stop on the way, at Berkshire Mountain Bakery in Housatonic (excellent pain au chocolat, and a loaf and some kouign amann to bring). After the family love, we experienced yet more warm and generous hospitality from my high school bestie and her husband.

The last time I had seen them was for a class reunion in 2002, when they once again very generously put me up and fed me. This was a more relaxed time. We had lunch upon arrival. We had a great long walk into the nearby countryside, followed by a superb dinner (restaurant quality, I said, and it was true). We had lots and lots of very enjoyable conversation.

Two homestays in a row with bird feeders! This time we saw an elusive cardinal, a female. We also saw a bluebird using a bluebird box. I don't think I'd ever seen a bluebird before! I spotted a possum facing off with a neighbourhood cat and soon slinking away to safety.

My friend showed us the Merlin app that identifies birds by their sounds. Now Sweetie and I are both using it. The nearby countryside where we walked is quite open, and we heard many species.

They sent us off in the morning full of eggs, bacon, and toast, plus coffee for the driver. It's been hard to have such great company and then have to leave so soon. I love where we live, but I wish it weren't so far away from people that I love.

From the Berkshires, we could have zipped over to I-87 in New York fairly quickly, but I selected a Google Maps alternative that would take us on a diagonal through Vermont into Upstate New York. A wandering diagonal it was, on US and state routes and sometimes even on county roads and roads with no number. More than once we doubted the wisdom of Google Maps' choices. Adirondack Park featured a good half dozen long single-lane alternating sections while road work was going on, which Maps seemed not to know about.

When we reached Westport, not far from where we finally met up with the highway, I noticed a coffee shop, a rainbow flag at a nearby art store, and other rainbow things. We needed a pit stop anyway. The coffee shop is called Jambs. It featured a multicoloured electric "Open" sign, great coffee, and a very nice young man running the place. After so many signs along the way supporting the would-be dictator, this town was a refreshing find. We'd already seen some multilingual Hate Has No Home Here signs, and there was one in a shop window.

It wasn't long until we made it to the border. I had forgotten to grab my Canadian passport from the trunk; the guard let me through on my US passport and my French name. I'm not kidding. We made it to Le Nouvel Hotel through evening traffic. I skilfully wedged Taylor into a narrow space in the tiny underground lot.

Montréal is another old friend. When we lived in Boston, we would manage the occasional four-day weekend there, staying at an inexpensive hotel on the east end near the bus station and the Dunkin Donuts. I also toured with a surf band and played at the legendary Les Foufounes Éléctriques (we were not quite a match for the vibe). We've had a lot of experiences in this city. It's on my personal list of the great cities I've visited.

Montréal welcomed us back. That evening, at a South Indian restaurant with the extremely unpretentious name Our Place, our second choice after our first choice Indian restaurant was closed, we had the best dosas we'd ever had. We have a favourite dosa house here at home, but the ones at Our Place South Indian were better. Now we're spoiled.


In the morning, Sweetie and I walked to breakfast at L'Oeufrier (De La Montagne) (excellent oatmeal, a rarity in restaurants) and then to the Redpath Museum at McGill University, which features a large mineral collection and a paleontology wing, as well as a third-floor human culture collection that we were too tired to climb to (the building is about to undergo an accessibility retrofit). At the end of a long grassy area in front of the Redpath was the Palestinian support encampment. Old antiwar protester solidarity from afar.

Stade olympique on the east side

On the Sicily tour last spring, we had hit it off especially well with this one couple. They live less than an hour outside the city and were in town that day for appointments, and we had arranged to meet up. They picked us up a bit after 2. They brought us up "the mountain" (Mont Royal) to a couple of the viewpoints. Then they drove us into Vieux Montréal. I love the old city, but right now several blocks of it are torn up, the Basilique de Montréal is under more scafolding than Notre-Dame-de-Paris, and they still charge you money to go inside.

We had intended to go for coffee, but by the time we had parked and found the destination, it was cocktail hour. And then rooftop drinks turned into munchie food that turned into supper. N'duja fries! And a good charcuterie plate. Then a trip to an ice cream shop. We were glad this meetup worked out!

We did a lot of peopling on this trip, and it was all unexpectedly awesome for this awkward introvert. With family and friends who make me this comfortable, I'm less awkward and better able to interact. Love and acceptance make all the difference in human interactions.

We were switching to an airport hotel for the final night due to an early flight, so we had to deal with Taylor all day. In late morning, we managed to find a one-hour parking space near Snowdon Deli. Service was snappy, and very quickly we had a couple of huge smoked meat sandwiches in front of us, with half sours and coleslaw. The smoked meat (medium, not lean) was hands down the best we'd ever had, including from Schwartz's, the late Ben's, and our home-town favourite Anny's. Melt-in-your-mouth. The sides were delicious. And the service was so efficient that we were back at the car well before the hour was up.

Métaséquoia / dawn redwood at Arboretum

We drove to the Arborteum, again parked for free (until 4 pm), and spent the next few hours walking among trees and gardens and listening to birds. Then before it was time for vehicles to be towed in preparation for rush hour traffic, we hopped in Taylor and became rush hour traffic, inching our way on the autoroute and through one particularly gnarly interesection to the hotel Aloft near the airport.

Aloft doesn't have a real restaurant. I Google Map searched for nearby restaurants, figuring basic was the best we'd find. Au contraire! A short walk from the hotel across the highway, there is Restaurant Bar Foccaccio, an unexpectedly superb Italian trattoria.

We realized after we couldn't change our bookings that we need not have changed hotels. The drive to the airport from Le Nouvel Hotel would have been short and easy at 5:30 am. But if we hadn't changed, we would never have discovered Foccaccio. A goodbye kiss from a beloved friend.

And we arrived home to peak spring bloom in the habitat. What more could I ask for?

Family ties

Not our brownstone

After the Moncton-of-not-much-there and the fort-but-no-museum, we had an easy drive on a lovely day to Saint John, New Brunswick. Our Airbnb, a brownstone in the South End (a preservation area chock full of old buildings) was super cute and charmingly weird. Its long U shape with long connecting hallway meant that the media room and bedroom were quite separate from the kitchen, parlour, and bathroom. Our hosts, who lived in the basement suite (ground floor in the back), couldn't have been nicer.

That evening, we walked to Uptown to join Sweetie's sister and her wife at Grannan's for excellent seafood and great company.

We also spent much of the next day in Uptown. It's really the only neighbourhood in Saint John you want to go to, other than the South End. Uptown has the coffee shops and restaurants, the boutiques and the old churches, the thriving mall and the mall on life-support. The latter was home to the New Brunswick Black Historical Society, where we got a personal tour through history and artifacts from a volunteer elder whose family had lived in the area for several generations. There was a cruise ship in the harbour, but the Saint John Market was not too crowded, and we were able to get lunch.

That evening, we drove several kilometres east to my sisters-in-law's beautiful house on a bluff that overlooks the Bay of Fundy. We had a lovely dinner and lots of quality family and new (to us) dog interaction.

The drive the next day through southwestern New Brunswick into Maine was grey and wet. But there was a notable stumble-upon. If you love Reuben sandwiches and happen to be in Newport, Maine, or really anywhere near Newport, Maine, head to the Newport Diner. We had the best Reuben either of us has ever had. It was the epitome of Reubens. And with onion rings instead of fries, I was in hog heaven.

But Pancho is a sweetie

After the rest of a very long drive, we arrived in Hampton Beach. Our Airbnb was a suite in an old hotel, across from the beach, not far from the centre of the town. We had supper at the house of my older sister and her husband, whom I had not seen in seven years (and longer for Sweetie). The next day we took them out for seafood lunch, joined by their son from New York, our nephew, for extra family fun. It had been many years since I had eaten fried clams (with the bellies), and I enjoyed them thoroughly.

We tell my sister, we gotta arcade. We love to play skeeball and I love to play pinball. My sis says, come over after you're done, I want you to meet someone, and there is chocolate stout cake involved. I am not sus at all.

We arrive at the house to find the best surprise ever: five cousins on my father's side and my last living aunt, his younger sister, still pretty sharp at 97. I had not seen any of these folks since Christmas of 1992, before we went off to the Left Coast. The interaction among us was wonderful, full of stories I hadn't known. I was bowled over that my sister would think to get us all together and to be able to pull it off. And of course she and her husband hosted and fed us all. I am deeply grateful.

Before we left, after the extended family had departed, my brother-in-law demoed his extensive and engaging HO-scale train layout. I'm not sure how I had missed this every other time I had been at the house.

The next day, we got an early start, and by just after 10 we made it to eastern Connecticut and the home of my niece, the aforementioned older sister's daughter, and her husband and their children, the closest we'll ever have to grandchildren.

In two brief hours, my ex-teacher spouse won the hearts of two boys, one a bit reserved, in a variety of ways, from reading a funny story upon arrival to fist-bumping to say goodbye. I love kids, and I'm usually good with them, but Sweetie is next level and probably the level after that. Neither of us ever talks down to kids, which I think they appreciate. We went from funny old strangers to family in that short visit. We had a lovely time chatting with the grownups too, in between fawning over their offspring.

By early afternoon, we were in northwestern Connecticut, where my cousin and her husband live. I had contacted them to visit, and they said "come stay." She and her three siblings are my only first cousins on my mother's side of the family. The two nearby siblings, one with spouse, were able to come join us for an afternoon barbecue.

Pancho and bird feeder (birds not included)

The last time I saw any of these cousins was 10 years ago at my mother's memorial. In my cousins' lovely home and with their generous hospitality, we had a very convivial reunion. And after the party, we spent the evening and morning with our hosts, two of the loveliest people you could ever hope to meet. It was really the first substantial time we'd spent together, really the first time I've ever done that with any of my cousins. We learned that we all have a lot of common interests, and we never ran out of things to talk about.

We city dwellers also drank in the surroundings, the beautiful lot with fruit trees and a forest behind. We were kind of obsessed with watching the bird feeder, seeing different species than we have out west, notably rose-breasted grosbeak and tufted titmouse (cardinals were more elusive).

My family didn't live near the extended family. We were always the visitors, never really involved in our cousins' lives as they were in each others' lives. It was quite a profound experience to have some "late immersion" after so many years apart. And by confirming some stories and debunking others, it was also an educational experience for this family genealogist.

The party at my sister's was the family reunion that happens every Christmas but that I hadn't been to in over 30 years, and though the time was short, the love came thick and fast. The morning with our grands (and their parents) was so precious that I know we can't let the next meetup be another seven years from now, even if only by occasional video call. And getting to know my cousin, whom I've always known but have never known well, with her husband in their lovely house in that beautiful countryside, was profoundly gratifying.

All the family encounters were a pleasure and a priviledge beyond measure. I never knew how much I missed this kind of family interaction. I had not known how beneficial it would be for me.

Ancestral shtetls

Great-grandaunt

After spending the night in Longueuil, just east across the Saint-Lawrence River from Montréal, we lit out for Saint-Ferdinand. The small town on Lac William is where my mother's maternal grandparents migrated from. And indeed migrated to, an internal migration a generation earlier from the Beauce region south of Québec to this area to the southwest, no doubt in search of new land to farm.

The beginning of the drive was via autoroute, not terribly exciting. We got well acquainted with the offerings from Sirius XM. Do you know any other people who would switch between the Beatles, Lithium (grunge and other 90s music), Bob Marley, Little Steven's Underground Garage, and Taylor's Version? Before long, per Sweetie, Taylor was the name of our rented white Chevy Malibu (reserve a small car you really want, get an "upgrade" because you're late).

Saint-Ferdinand turned out to be a very cute town right on the lake, with some historic buildings, surrounded by farms. It gets busy in summer. It turned out to be the only place I would find the headstones I was looking for: my great-great-grandparents, a great-granduncle, and a great-grandaunt.

We spent the next two nights on Île d'Orléans, just downriver from Québec. The Airbnb in Saint-Laurent was the shiz, a gorgeous place that overlooked the south channel of the Saint Lawrence River. Our host was as nice as the place. A short walk away was an épicérie with some foodstuffs and a variety of alcoholic beverages.

Our Lady of the Goat Dairy Gnome

It was during a motoring tour of the island on our first full day, in Sanite-Famille, that the injurious mishap occurred. Not to us. To Taylor. It involved a safe reversal of direction by me, an unsafe reversal of direction weirdly close by in the opposite direction by a young man with his mom in the passenger seat, a complete failure to check the rear-view mirror or hear a blaring horn, and an unfortunate assault on Taylor by the blue car's rear bumper. She suffered minor wounds to the driver's side front bumper and fender. No one was physically injured, and the tire was not impeded, so we could still drive the car. We did not need any of the stressful shit that came out of this, but I got zen about it, exchanged information, made the claim, and did followup when necessary.

To add insult to injury, the poutine from the famous place for which we had reversed direction was only a'ight. Not even, because something was weird about the sauce. And we had to wait in line behind the young man and his mother, who both seemed pretty casual about what he had done.

It wasn't easy for either of us to shake that off, but Île d'Orléans is too lovely, even in the off season, for us not to have had a good time anyway. We had a lovely dinner on the water; we got goat cheese soft serve, goat cheese, and a fresh baguette; we bought cool stuff from a place that made its own vinegar, primarily from black currant; and I had several kinds of beer from the local craft brewer (from the épicérie), all excellent.

From Saint-Laurent looking toward Beauport

We passed through Saint-Lambert and Saint-Isidore south of the city, the fragrant farm country of my father's maternal grandparents. As on the Île, no hits in the cemeteries. This trend would continue.

I didn't even bother to check in Montmagny, which has five cemeteries and a church that has been moved several times. Montmagny, a larger town downriver from the Île, is the land of my father's paternal grandfather, who left for work in the US when he was 14 and never went back. I wouldn't mind visiting again. There are things to do. We satisfied a craving for 'ot chicken (hot chicken sandwich with gravy and peas) at a Saint-Hubert in town.

Kamouraska, where we spent the night, is even further downriver. It's the town my mother's paternal grandparents came from. Kamouraska is tiny and, when it's not summer, mostly closed. Our loft above a jewellery store was funky, and somewhat dangerous to the head near the eaves if you weren't careful, but it had a nice view of the river (I am a river person) and was right among the only things that were open. We were across the street from the church and its graveyard (no hits), which itself was next to a farm. The town museum, the kind of thing we would have loved, was closed when Google claimed otherwise.

We did have an extraordinary meal, and that's no small thing. A short walk from our place was an elevated diner called Grand'Ourse: La Cantine de Kamouraska that served some of the most flavourful food we have ever tasted. We would so go back if we lived there. The local coffee shop was quite nice as well.

Next came one of three long driving days, all the way to Moncton, New Brunswick. I had no idea Moncton was such a not-nice place. Our Airbnb was fine, although weird -- a basement suite in a brand new house in a brand new development that wasn't even finished and often lacked paving. Don't go to Moncton.

The closest I came to my distant Acadian ancestors was at Fort Beauséjour. No graves here, no actual settlement, just this fort. It's a Parks Canada site and closed until the first week in June, so no museum, but we walked around the fort and read the interpretive signs and looked out over the extraordinary panorama of dikes and poulders and ocean. The forebears farmed land in that panorama. It was cold and windy and I loved the spot. The blueberry farm a few kilometres away that made their own ice cream was a very pleasant stumble-upon.

So this part of the trip was less about headstones than I had hoped, but as Sweetie says, I walked in the footsteps of my ancestors, literally. It was great to get a feel for the places where my migrant forebears grew up and that they then left behind.

 

 

(Panoramic view from Fort Beauséjour)

 

Big round number birthday trip

Fournier ancestors had a bigger street

The trip was kind of a wild hair. I turned 70 this year, which Sweetie refers to as a "big round number birthday," so I got to choose the big trip. Instead of going back to Europe (always my first love), something made me choose a fly-drive trip through Québec, New Brunswick and New England.

Sweetie and I would fly into Montréal and then drive across Québec over the next few days to visit what Sweetie calls my ancestral "shtetls," the villages where my great-grandparents and grandfather lived and where often their families had lived for many generations. Those were the places my migrant ancestors left behind for the United States.

We would also visit (and stay on) Île d'Orléans, where the people bearing around 170 of the 434 distinct surnames of my settler ancestors lived and worked in the early days of Nouvelle-France. From there we would drive to Acadia to see what was left of my ancestors who lived there before leaving for Lower Canada not long before the Expulsion.

After that, we would visit Sweetie's sister and sister-in-law in New Brunswick. Then a long drive through Maine to New Hampshire to see my older sister and her husband, whom we had not seen for about seven years. Then a drive to eastern Connecticut to meet our two grandnephews for the first time, and a drive to northwestern Connecticut to visit with my cousin, daughter of my mother's only brother, and her husband, whom we had not seen in 10 years. From there, we would proceed to the Berkshires in Massachusetts to see my BFF from high school and her husband, and finally back to Montréal for a couple of days of plain old tourism (and R&R).

Pancho the travel octopod

I figured none of the driving days was too long. I'm half human-half car, and I've done a lot of long-distance driving in my life. Despite my big round number age, I determined that I could handle it. I didn't realize until the end of the trip that the distance would be more than 3,200 km in all — almost 2,000 miles, or more than halfway across the continent.

When we described our itnerary to one of our hosts in Saint John, New Brunswick, he called it the trip of a lifetime. I had not thought about it that way. I knew it was an epic journey, but I left without too many expectations. I knew that I would enjoy whatever I found. As it turns out, it really was the trip of a lifetime, largely thanks to the wonderful family and friends we spent quality time with.

All shall be told, when I can manage it.